What Is Your First Response When Something Unfavorable Happens To You?


So, I have a question for you, and I want you to really think about the answer. When something unforeseen or something bad happens to you, what is your first reaction? Do you automatically ask, “Why Me”?

Find the lesson each of these experiences can give you.

I’ll be the first to state that I am not perfect, but I always try, or at least have learned to try, to find the lesson in each of the scenarios in my life. I know many of you have experienced hardships in your life, so I will use some of mine to illustrate how you can find gratitude in difficult situations.

Showing gratitude in adverse situations does not diminish the hurt and fears you may be feeling.

I grew up in a home with an alcoholic father. Luckily, he went to treatment and has since been on the road of recovery. Yeah, there were some things I wish I did not have to deal with, but there are so many things I am grateful for because of this experience. While my dad was in treatment, we attended Family Week. At this event, we realized really how easy we had it compared to other families. That does not diminish the hurt and fears I had during his drinking years, but it could have been so much worse. I am incredibly thankful our situation was not as bad as it could have been. But, that is not the only positive thing I have taken from this experience. It is because of what I went through and how it shaped me that I am also grateful for the following things.

  • I have a husband who is present with me and our children.
  • I am a strong enough person to stand up for myself.
  • I did not repeat the alcoholism cycle.
  • I have never been a heavy drinker or bar crowd person, which has saved me time, money, and heartache.

What will you choose?

As you have been getting to know me, you have also been learning about my Fibromyalgia story. (Click here to read my Fibro story if you haven’t yet.)Fibromyalgia is definitely not fun and games. In fact, I had to show myself some tough love. I had a choice, stay where I was at emotionally, physically, and mentally or pivot. If I stayed where I was chances are I would, at the very least, stay the same, or I would get worse. If I chose to pivot, I would need to reframe my mindset. I would need to consciously look at the blessings in my life and look for ways to live a productive life even with Fibro. Obviously, I chose to pivot.

Blessings I feel Fibro has given me are:

  • I really know my body and how to read it.
  • I am not scared to be an advocate for myself.
  • I have met so many wonderful people along my journey, and I am honored to call them friends!
  • Now, I take time to stop and smell the roses. I have learned to be present in the moment and enjoy it.
  • I would not have found Oola.
  • I became a Certified Oola Life Coach and have the ability to work from home. If I did not leave my career as an Elementary Educator due to Fibro, I would never had followed my dream of becoming a Life Coach.

The choice is YOURS!

I could continue on with other examples, however, I think you get my drift. It’s all in how you view the world. It IS a CHOICE! Are you going to look in the teeny rearview mirror always yearning for something in your past, allowing anger or hate to take over your life? How about living by looking out the front window? A front window is so much bigger, with so many more possibilities open to you. The choice is YOURS. If you are scared, reluctant, or just need a guiding hand to help you to the land of possibilities, I am here for you. I will be your biggest cheerleader. I will help you with those blockers and turn them into accelerators so you can live a life you never dreamed possible. Together, we are Positively Powerful!

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