Monthly Archives: May 2020
Monthly Archives: May 2020
Are you in a field you love, doing what you want to do? Or do you need to make a change (including making a change that’s been forced on you)? Part of living a balanced, happy life is doing work that inspires and delights you: you’re good at it, you’re needed, and you love everything about the 6-10 hours a day you spend doing it.
Whether it’s working at a local company . . . raising amazing kids as a full-time mom or dad. . . or running your own show with a business of your own, is there a 1% improvement you could make to grow in your career, have more fun, show up in a bigger way, or finally make the kind of income you dream of?
Through coaching all kinds of people, I’ve discovered that small steps can lead to big improvements. For instance, could you . . .
Career upgrades and business-building are two of the best reasons to work with a life coach. Without family pressure, opinions, or judgment, we can look at what YOU really want and how you might transition—safely and sensibly—into a situation that’s far better than the one you’re in now.
And, by the way? If this latest crisis has eliminated your job altogether, it may be the excuse you need to pursue the worklife of your dreams.
So why not comment below and tell me about YOUR dream career. Then message me to talk more about how coaching works to improve careers, businesses, full-time parenting—even pursuing volunteer work or philanthropy.
You were made for greatness. Let’s go get it for you.
One of my favorite quotes is from corporate consultant Jack Rosenblum who said: If one person tells you you’re a horse, they’re crazy. If three people tell you you’re a horse, there’s a conspiracy afoot. If ten people tell you you’re a horse, it’s time to buy a saddle.
LOL. But what Jack’s really talking about here is feedback—the kind we don’t want to hear and, too often, the kind that many of us ignore.
One of the toughest things my coaching clients have to work through is a family situation that’s stressful, heartbreaking or simply needs attention.
So today, what’s one small step—a 1% improvement—you can make to improve your marriage, family relationships, boundaries, house rules, or living situation? Could you . . .
• Schedule a date night this Saturday with your spouse?
• Have that “difficult conversation” with your aging parent?
• Cook dinner as a family at least three nights this week?
• Establish a calm morning routine for younger children?
• Set boundaries with your argumentative brother?
If you need to show up differently and make some serious changes (in your family situation or any other category), I have good news: I’ve teamed up with Oola authors Dr. Dave Braun and Dr. Troy Amdahl to bring you a 10-week focused approach to creating a life that’s balanced, happy, and growing.
Don’t just dream about the ideal life you want. Start living it with Oola Coaching. Click now (or message me)!
Is this an area where you need to start making 1% improvements? The reality is that some people sail through tough economic times with a healthy emergency fund, little to no debt, a side hustle that pays household expenses, and a lifestyle they can dial down at a moment’s notice.
For others, an economic crisis like this one is a wake-up call that their finances may not have been great to begin with.
If the past several weeks have been an eye-opener for you, why not consider what kind of 1% improvement you can make today to improve your finances. Could you . . .
• Cancel luxury subscriptions like meal kits or water delivery?
• Sell or return sports gear you’re making payments on?
• Sell unused items on Craigslist or Facebook Marketplace?
• Look for work-at-home jobs with reputable companies?
• Build a rainy-day savings account with just $100 to start?
While your situation may seem impossible now, solid finances are possible if you create a plan and focus on making small steps regularly. Write down all your debts and make an extra payment on the smallest one if you can. Move any extra money you get into savings or a retirement fund. Research simple ways to get investment help such as a mutual fund company or local financial planner. Talk with your spouse and kids about researching low-cost fun, recycled fashions, home cooking, and cool volunteering options instead of expensive vacations.
Whatever 1% improvement would change YOUR finances for the better, comment below and tell me!
Then, seriously consider working with me privately to set financial goals and take action on your most important category. Helping people find balance and achieve life changes in every major area is something I do through a unique 10-week coaching program designed around the bestselling book and coaching formula: Oola. Message me for details.
While we’re all aware of the global health crisis right now, have you considered what you can do to improve your own health and lifestyle?
One of the best outcomes of living the Oola life is getting back to basics: adequate sleep, nutritious food, time for exercise—plus setting aside time to handle longstanding conditions that cause pain, embarrassment or anxiety.
Simply starting the journey toward being fit and healthy will boost your energy, immunity and brain function. And a daily walk around the neighborhood delivers noticeable results.
Recently, I introduced the idea of “1% Improvement.” In the area of health and fitness, could you . . .
• Plan a healthy dinner, then take a 45-minute walk?
• Cut out the sugar from your diet starting today?
• Research The Elimination Diet to identify food sensitivity?
• Book a checkup for that annoying health condition?
• Clear a spot in your home and break out the yoga gear?
If you took time after my last post to make a list of what’s not working in your life, then resolved to improve your health or fitness level in some way, why not use the best kept secret of top achievers: coaching. Of all the things successful people do to accelerate their path to the healthy, balanced and financially secure lifestyle they want, working with a coach is at the top of the list.
The Oola Coaching Program is the formula I discovered that has transformed not only my life, but the lives of countless people around the world. Not only will it help you define the goals you want to achieve, it will keep you accountable to doing those things every day that bring about the results you want.
Check out Oola Coaching and work with me every week to find balance and calm the overwhelm in major life areas like finances, fitness, family, field (career) and more. For now, comment below (or message me) with the 1% step you’ll take to improve your health today.
There’s always too much to do. And worse, there never seems to be enough time, money or energy for achieving our biggest life goals.
Well, for the next few weeks, I’d like to challenge you to work on improving your life just 1% at a time. That’s right: together we’ll take “baby steps” towards lowering your stress level, bringing balance to your finances, work life, family relationships, and more.
The reality is that there’s a lot to be stressed about today. But relief is attainable with one or two small “wins” every few days – like paying off just one bill or decluttering just one room or setting just one new boundary with the kids.
Of course, the concept of “1% Improvement” isn’t new. Many personal growth experts encourage us to do small things that have a large impact. But I especially like the way this concept is described in the bestselling book Oola: Find Balance in an Unbalanced World: identify what’s not working in your life, then write down three tasks you could do tomorrow to solve just one problem or eliminate just one source of stress.
Over the next few weeks, I’ll guide you in making plans, taking steps, and sharing your wins with others as you decide to make “1% Improvement”. It’s what the Oola lifestyle taught me, and it’s what I help others do as an Oola Certified Life Coach.
Today, let’s take an inventory. Do you have stress in any of “The 7 F’s of Oola” (below)? Write down your list of what’s not working in a journal or on your smartphone, so you can refer back to it.
Fitness: Excess weight? Poor Nutrition? Little Exercise?
Finance: Crushing debt? No retirement plan? Too many bills?
Family: Need boundaries? Marriage on life support?
Field: Career stress? No free time? Low pay or benefits?
Faith: No real relationship with God? Need a daily practice?
Friends: Toxic friends that bring you down? Need mentors?
Fun: No time for fun? Waiting until you’re older or retired?
Whatever is stressing you, create your list of what’s not working … then comment below and share where you’d like to make improvements (but hey, don’t reveal personal details you don’t want others to read!).
Tomorrow, I’ll give you a “1% Improvement” strategy for tackling the daily steps needed to achieve the life you want. Stay tuned! It will be a life-changing post that transforms the way you focus on your future.
Gratitude actually helps train the brain to look at your environment in a positive way, and it shapes how you react to the things happening around you. When you are focused on positivity, good things naturally flow to you.
What do I mean by this you ask? Well, think of it this way. When you are feeling down, it seems like everything happening around you is negative. For example, you’re late for work…again. Your computer freezes while you are rushing to meet a deadline. You lose your job or are furloughed. You have to go to a job you hate. You are overwhelmed by the added responsibilities brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic. It just goes on and on. At the end of the day, you feel exhausted and defeated. This perpetuates the “hamster-on-the-wheel” state of mind. You find yourself on the spinning wheel of negativity.
On the other hand, when you start your morning feeling grateful for another day, positive things seem to naturally come your way. You hear your favorite song on the radio. You have a pep in your step. You might even take a final look in the mirror before starting your day thinking, “Dang! I look good today!” You are easily able to interact with others clearly and compassionately. You have more energy at the end of the day. You feel positive and that anything is possible.
When you are able to look at things in a positive light, you are more grateful; you tend to do more acts of kindness for others. Hence, when you state out loud what your dreams are, they will start to come true for you.
There is so much information regarding gratitude. So, I have broken up the information into a series of blogs, just like I did for core values. Before diving into the rest of my gratitude blogs, I want to encourage you to do the following exercise. Each day, take 5 minutes to write down 1-3 things you are grateful for. Think about these things throughout your day. Now, be ready to start consciously seeing more blessing coming your way!
This is a continuation from last week’s blog. (Click here if you missed it.) I don’t need to tell any of you that life has changed for all of us – some more than others. But COVID-19 is an actual WORLD event that has affected all of us in one way or another. How can we find gratitude in something like this? Yes, there are a lot of negatives. We hear about them every day during the evening news, but instead of rehashing the negative news, I’d like to focus on the positive. I’d like to help you find gratitude in some of the things that may be happening to you during this pandemic. Here are a few mindset shifts that can help you turn negative thoughts into positive ones.
I did not like my job anyways. I now have the time to reinvent myself for the job of my dreams!
I realize I love what I do, so I am going to use this time to make myself stand out even more when I can get back to my job.
I CAN do my job from home. I can prove to my employer that I am more productive when working from home – a win-win for both the company and me!
I love being home with my children. I feel like I am a better parent, and I don’t feel guilty about leaving them at daycare. I will work on either reinventing myself for the job of my dreams or prove to my employer that I am just as productive, or more, when I am able to work from home.
I don’t have to feel guilty anymore about having my children go to daycare while I go to work. I am a better parent when I am able to work outside of the home.
I am grateful for public or private education. I know my children are cared for by their teachers.
I am eating healthier because I am not eating out all the time, and I am saving money – an extra bonus!
I am getting more fit because now I can’t say I don’t have time to workout.
I am able to get the rest I so desperately need.
I am saving money because I do not have to buy so much gas for my car or pay for maintenance since I am home.
Now that I am staying home, my family only needs one vehicle enabling us to save more money.
I am starting to educate myself on finances with David Ramsey so when the next crisis happens, I am financially prepared.
I am enjoying spending time with my significant other. It feels like we are dating again!
I have time to reconnect with friends I haven’t talked to for a long time.
I am enjoying time with my family and doing things we have never done or have not done for a long time by playing board games or card games, eating meals together or watching a movie together.
I am able to get back to my hobby, something I haven’t done for years.
I am able to get to the to do list I never seemed to be able to get to.
I am slowing down and finding I like living at this slower pace.
I am able to get back to my Faith by reading scripture or praying again.
I am grateful because I know I am not alone in this.
There is a plan; I am trusting in Him.
I hope these were helpful to you. There are so many lessons for ALL of us right now. You just have to be open to listening to your wise inner self, your subconscious mind, to hear them. What you hear for yourself may not be what someone else is feeling, and that is OK. Maybe you are still in the grieving stages of all that you feel has been taken from you. I hope, when you are ready, this small list of ways to be grateful can help you come to the light of acceptance to grow and become someone you always DREAMED you would be. Together, we are Positively Powerful!
So, I have a question for you, and I want you to really think about the answer. When something unforeseen or something bad happens to you, what is your first reaction? Do you automatically ask, “Why Me”?
I’ll be the first to state that I am not perfect, but I always try, or at least have learned to try, to find the lesson in each of the scenarios in my life. I know many of you have experienced hardships in your life, so I will use some of mine to illustrate how you can find gratitude in difficult situations.
I grew up in a home with an alcoholic father. Luckily, he went to treatment and has since been on the road of recovery. Yeah, there were some things I wish I did not have to deal with, but there are so many things I am grateful for because of this experience. While my dad was in treatment, we attended Family Week. At this event, we realized really how easy we had it compared to other families. That does not diminish the hurt and fears I had during his drinking years, but it could have been so much worse. I am incredibly thankful our situation was not as bad as it could have been. But, that is not the only positive thing I have taken from this experience. It is because of what I went through and how it shaped me that I am also grateful for the following things.
As you have been getting to know me, you have also been learning about my Fibromyalgia story. (Click here to read my Fibro story if you haven’t yet.)Fibromyalgia is definitely not fun and games. In fact, I had to show myself some tough love. I had a choice, stay where I was at emotionally, physically, and mentally or pivot. If I stayed where I was chances are I would, at the very least, stay the same, or I would get worse. If I chose to pivot, I would need to reframe my mindset. I would need to consciously look at the blessings in my life and look for ways to live a productive life even with Fibro. Obviously, I chose to pivot.
I could continue on with other examples, however, I think you get my drift. It’s all in how you view the world. It IS a CHOICE! Are you going to look in the teeny rearview mirror always yearning for something in your past, allowing anger or hate to take over your life? How about living by looking out the front window? A front window is so much bigger, with so many more possibilities open to you. The choice is YOURS. If you are scared, reluctant, or just need a guiding hand to help you to the land of possibilities, I am here for you. I will be your biggest cheerleader. I will help you with those blockers and turn them into accelerators so you can live a life you never dreamed possible. Together, we are Positively Powerful!